Why Reflection Changes Divorce Outcomes | Season 4, Episode 7

Divorce requires people to make important decisions about their children, finances, homes, and futures—often while experiencing anger, fear, grief, and uncertainty.

In Episode 7 of The Restorative Divorce Podcast, Erin Birt begins Part 2 of Season 4 with themes from The 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook. Erin explores how slowing reactivity, regulating emotions, and using structured thinking can help people make more thoughtful decisions during divorce.

Drawing from the workbook’s exercises on understanding emotions, recognizing triggers, and mapping emotions to reactions, Erin explains why reflection isn’t about avoiding difficult decisions. It’s about creating enough space to separate an emotional reaction from the decision that actually needs to be made.

Sometimes what changes the direction of a divorce is simply taking the time to recognize what you’re feeling, understand what triggered it, and decide what actually needs to happen next.

“Try not to judge them—just observe.”