Restorative Divorce

Podcast by Erin Birt, J.D., CADC

Restorative Divorce

Restorative Divorce is an informative podcast for anyone considering divorce or coparenting without costly and destricutive litigation. We focus on the emotional, financial, and legal aspects of divorce and coparenting so you can be best prepared for the future. This podcast will guide you to find places of peace and resolution before, during, and after your divorce or separation. Videos and transcripts of our podcast can also be found at www.birtlaw.com.

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Latest episodes

05 October 2026

Why Reflection Changes Divorce Outcomes | Season 4, Episode 7

Divorce requires people to make important decisions about their children, finances, homes, and futures—often while experiencing anger, fear, grief, and uncertainty.

In Episode 7 of The Restorative Divorce Podcast, Erin Birt begins Part 2 of Season 4 with themes from The 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook. Erin explores how slowing reactivity, regulating emotions, and using structured thinking can help people make more thoughtful decisions during divorce.

Drawing from the workbook’s exercises on understanding emotions, recognizing triggers, and mapping emotions to reactions, Erin explains why reflection isn’t about avoiding difficult decisions. It’s about creating enough space to separate an emotional reaction from the decision that actually needs to be made.

Sometimes what changes the direction of a divorce is simply taking the time to recognize what you’re feeling, understand what triggered it, and decide what actually needs to happen next.

“Try not to judge them—just observe.”

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28 August 2026

The Real Cost of Divorce Conflict | Season 4, Episode 6

How much does divorce conflict really cost?

Attorney fees are only part of the answer. In Episode 6 of The Restorative Divorce Podcast, Erin Birt explores how unnecessary escalation can increase legal expenses, prolong the divorce process, affect children, and consume the time and energy families need to rebuild.

Drawing from The Kitchen Table Divorce®, Erin also shares a real client story in which structured cooperation helped reduce legal costs and explains why preparing the table—and adding the right professional to it at the right time—can make such a significant difference.

Sometimes the most expensive part of divorce isn't the legal process itself. It's what unnecessary conflict takes from the family along the way.

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17 August 2026

What Parents Get Wrong About Co-Parenting Discussions

One of the greatest fears parents face during divorce is the thought of no longer being part of every moment of their children's lives. Too often, that fear drives parenting discussions in ways that increase conflict instead of creating stability.

In this episode of The Restorative Divorce Podcast, Erin Birt explores the common mistakes parents make during co-parenting conversations and explains why a parenting plan is about much more than dividing time—it's about designing your child's childhood.

Drawing from more than 20 years of experience as a family law attorney and mediator, along with the principles of The Kitchen Table Divorce®, Erin shares practical strategies for approaching parenting discussions with greater clarity, cooperation, and long-term perspective.

Whether you're considering divorce, working through mediation, or already co-parenting, this episode will help you focus less on winning time and more on creating the kind of childhood your children will remember with security, stability, and love.

Visit BirtLaw.com to schedule a complimentary 15-minute introductory call or a Kitchen Table Divorce® Planning Session, and download additional resources designed to help families move through divorce with less conflict and greater confidence.

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17 July 2026

Setting the Table Before Divorce Conversations | The Kitchen Table Divorce®

Before you begin talking about divorce, prepare the conversation. Learn practical strategies for organizing information, communicating respectfully, and creating a healthier path forward for your family.

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08 June 2026

The Myth of DIY Divorce

DIY divorce can save money and reduce conflict, but understanding when to seek guidance may be the difference between a smooth resolution and a costly mistake.

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26 May 2026

What Is The Kitchen Table Divorce®?

For generations, families gathered around kitchen tables to discuss important decisions, solve problems, and plan for the future.

So why has divorce become something that immediately leaves the kitchen table and enters an adversarial system?

In Episode 2 of Season 4 of The Restorative Divorce Podcast, Erin Birt discusses the philosophy behind The Kitchen Table Divorce® and why many families may benefit from it before conflict escalates unnecessarily.

This episode explores:

• Why many divorces become reactive so quickly

• What The Kitchen Table Divorce® actually means

• The difference between litigation, mediation, and guided negotiation

• Why reducing unnecessary conflict matters for both parents and children

• How thoughtful planning may create healthier long-term outcomes

Drawing from more than 20 years of experience in family law, mediation, conflict resolution, and restorative divorce approaches, Erin shares insight into why many families need a roadmap before they need a courtroom.

If you are navigating divorce, co-parenting concerns, mediation, or uncertainty about your next step, this episode offers a calmer and more thoughtful perspective on how families may move forward with less unnecessary damage.

Listen now to Season 4 Episode 2 of The Restorative Divorce Podcast.

Learn more about The Kitchen Table Divorce®, mediation services, and planning sessions at BirtLaw.com.

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